Why You Need Conflict to Move Through Looping Behaviors
Some of us want to achieve inner peace and harmony. We're tired of the stresses we constantly feel. And while it is true, when you heal, when you do the inner work to achieve the outer results of different behaviors and renewed relationships, you do cut down on the drama.
But much like exercise requires us to constantly challenge our physical bodies, so too is there a need for ongoing inner conflict or tension. It's the need for opposing forces for us to achieve our higher, bigger self.
The Law of Three is referred to by Gurdjieff as “the second fundamental cosmic law." According to this law every phenomenon consists of three separate forces, which are Active, Passive and Reconciling or Neutral. This law applies to everything in the universe including organic life on earth. On whatever scale, from molecular to cosmic in whatever world, results from the combination of three opposing forces – the positive (affirming), the negative (denying), and the neutralizing (reconciling) force.
And this idea is also put forth from philosophers from a variety of ages, some attribute the concept of thesis, antithesis, and synthesis to Hegel, some to Kant. That doesn’t matter. What we’re putting forth here is the idea that there will always be tension in your growth work.
So, intrapersonally there is tension, there will be tension, and the good news is there does in fact NEED to be tension.
Time Stamps:
The problem with repetitive conflict. 1:32
People see patterns of repetitive conflict and dramas.
The tension between self-compassion and self-confrontation.
Self confrontation. 3:12
Self-confrontation is necessary in the coaching process.
The law of three.
The law of three. 4:45
A shock point, a reconciling force.
Burnout and the third force. 6:34
We get stuck in our own shit. 7:51
The one-sided echo chamber of beliefs.
The importance of reconciliation and synthesis.
Being open to the tension you're feeling. 9:00
How do you break the script? 10:38
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