How Surrendering is Completely Different Than Giving Up

Giving up is ego work. Giving up carries a different energy completely. It is fueled by a fear and a holding on. It produces tension and when we can no longer carry it, we feel the need to give up. Giving up is submitting to lower energy. It’s a feeling of self-abnegation, self-diminishment. 

Surrender is leveling up. Giving up is downshifting. 

We give up on ego work. We surrender to soul work. 

Surrender is a way of accepting the terms of life with a learner’s mind. There is acceptance. There is a renewed perspective, in which we can call something that involves suffering a gift even. Surrendering I think of as even accepting other difficult people in your life, people who have wronged you, who annoy you, who you plain dislike or feel you need to defend yourself from, and sending them love instead of defenses and reasons for your disdain.

Importantly, too, when we surrender, we stay open.

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Time Stamps:

:46--Shelley was recently teaching on the archetypes around feminine energy

2:38--The acceptance that comes from being open

3:43--Surrendering is always a movement into spaciousness

6:41--Shelley shares her experience of being a sensitive kid growing up

10:37--Are giving up and surrendering mutually exclusive?

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